Jilling Off

Have you seen the new ALAC ad about ‘It’s not what we’re drinking, it’s how we’re drinking’? You know, the one in which a woman gets drunk, and then gets taken into a dark alley by a dodgy-looking guy? I know that it may be true that more women end up in dangerous situations when there’s a lot of alcohol, but I can’t help but take away the message “if you’re drinking too much, you deserve what you get” from the ad, and that makes me as mad as hell.

And don’t even get me started on how FHM did a survey of their readers and discovered that they prefer size 12 women to size 8 women, and so an editor of Cleo was all “oh but it’s other women that women diet for”. Other women huh? Like, oh, I don’t know, the editors of magazines who make frequently use size 8 models in their editorial spreads?

I’m a smart woman. I’m a feminist. So why are all my fantasies so demeaning towards women?

I know Dan Savage would suggest that we fantasize about the things that scare us most, but I don’t think that’s a good enough explanation.

Please insert your thoughts here.